Helping hurting women

Understanding Anger 

Helping hurting women

Anger is defined as emotional excitement induced by intense displeasure. It is an inflammation in the spirit of a person, and if it is not curtailed, it can become destructive. Women are particularly susceptible to its influences due to the emotional and hormonal changes that occur in the female body.

A women who struggles with anger finds herself snapping at slight infractions. If she evaluates the infraction after her temper has settled, she will note that her responses were much greater that the infraction necessitated. And although it causes regret, the anger continues to rise when an offense presents itself. 

A woman who struggles with anger will notice that the people who are closest to her walk on egg shells around her. No one knows when she’ll blow or what might be the catalyst--so she is constantly handled with kid gloves.

Unfortunately, anger’s effects are far reaching. If children are the objects of anger, they often suffer silently. Their inward brewing eventually manifests itself in harmful ways as they become adults. If a husband is the object of anger, his manhood is whittled down, and he sometimes escapes through means of secrecy and separation in order to assert his masculinity. Yet around the angry wife, he will continue to exhibit a sense of failure and inability to be a leader. 

Much of anger’s hold on a women is a matter of pattern. A history of handling offenses in a rash or harsh manner has become a way of life. Therefore, to manage anger will mean making changes in life patterns, but this will not be enough to taper its detrimental effects. 

A change of temperament is the only way to combat this damaging emotion that seems to take on a life of its own. However, this can only be done through a divine transformation in the heart and mind. 

If you are a woman who struggles with anger, you might ask, with a little sarcasm, "Can this really be done? Can a leopard change her spots?" ... A good question, and the answer is crucial. No, a leopard cannot change its spots--but God can. God specializes in transforming the heart. A person is not bound by old habits or even old natures. By the hand of God an angry woman can become sweet-tempered and gracious. How inspiring to consider that it is entirely possible to develop "the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight." (1 Peter 3:4)